Meet my male best friend Christopher, also known as VesBlake. This video was so fun to make and it has definitely helped me become more comfortable in front of the camera.
[VIDEO] Dating Deal Breakers
Do you know what your deal breakers are? Do we really need them?
Podcast: A Convo With VesBlake
A conversation with Ves Blake, the entrepreneur and influencer sits down with amazing people doing amazing things in their industries. We discuss their obstacles and successes along the way. We also get personal and get some great exclusive, engaging and personal stories.
Let’s Talk About Settling For Second Best
As a millennial woman, I can't help but worry about the men and women of today's society. No matter where you are in the world there seems to be a growing trend of being a "glorified side chick". Let me explain this position to you.
Committed in College Series: UK Perspective
Hi everyone, I've genuinely missed you!! I know I've been MIA, so over the next few days, I'll be updating mstomilola.com with the various things I've been up to. I recently wrote a guest post for "Where She Begins", which is a lifestyle and wellness blog run by Breanna Danielle. As you can tell by … Continue reading Committed in College Series: UK Perspective
The Relationship Between Love & Hate
Below is a piece I wrote in 2009. Its amazing how words can take you back to a period of confusion and hurt.
Guess whose back?
April was a ridiculously busy month for me and I began to crumble under the pressures of my responsibilities. Work has been so busy that I’ve had to do tasks outside of my usual working hours, which is not unusual in my profession. However combine that with...
How I’m Overcoming My Body Issues
I’m not ashamed to say I have been feeling quite low and not currently my usual confident self, due to my weight gain.
Being a Smart Money Woman
I was struggling to decided what my money fears were. However, as I reflected on Saturday I realised that one of my money fears, is not visibly seeing "enough" money in my bank account which can mean that I struggle to let go of money at times. Everyone's money fears will be different and battling these fears is the first step to sorting out your finances for the better...
How Do You Decide Who to Marry?
I have heard of people testing their future spouse prior to marriage, and as many of you know there are human beings who are expert chameleons. So, with that being said I’m not necessarily opposing the view and need to test your partner, however there are limits to this.
Who Am I?
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein
Dear Future Husband: I’m Yours
Dear Future Husband, I hope that you'll forgive my childish experimentation. I cannot wait for the day that we declare our promise in front of God and man...
How To Keep Your Private Life, PRIVATE
My relationship status is definitely off limits and has been ever since my break up in 2011. Some things are just meant to be private. I don’t need my relationship to become anyone’s #RelationshipGoals, seriously that is a lot of unwanted pressure...
Table for One: Learn to Date Yourself
If I’m honest I used to think to myself, why would anyone want to go out to eat alone? Let alone even consider going to the cinema alone. There is a perception that these confident types of people are sad and lonely...
Invisible Crown
As she laid beside this man, she realised that she can't find her peace. Wide awake, she got up and made her way to the bathroom. She looked at her reflection, and all she could see were the deep etched lines that led to her heartache. A tear drops, as she realised that her beauty now resembled a roadmap of pain.
The Meaning of Love
From birth, we are fed images of love and are told happily ever after stories, so what else would we want as adults, than for an intentional pursuit of finding our one true love?
New Year, Improved Me.
Happy New Year Everyone, welcome to Your New Beginning. If you haven't done so already spend the day (before you return to the hustle and bustle of life) to plan your year. Planning helps you focus on what is important and what you wish to achieve in the next 12 months. 2017 signifies so many … Continue reading New Year, Improved Me.
My Open Letter To 2016
On the 31st December 2015, I sat in church contemplating all the wrong decisions I had made in 2015 and honestly all I felt was sadness. Whilst I was grateful (to some degree), I did not feel that I had progressed and mastered certain areas of life as well as I should have. I was … Continue reading My Open Letter To 2016
Tis the season to be jolly
Christmas is the wonderful celebration of the birth of Jesus whereby families are able to come together to spend quality time with one another, but is that always the case? The festive season can bring about a mix of emotions for people, such as fear of the new year and fear of being alone. What … Continue reading Tis the season to be jolly
She Always Knew
She curved past the dark corners of her mind It was easier for her to live in ignorant bliss than face her vulnerabilities She often walks in the dark hoping not to bump into reality She always knew Fear overshadowed the path that his words paved They danced to the beat of his consistency He … Continue reading She Always Knew
Don’t you just wish Jack would stay inside of his box??
Some of you may be familiar with what a Jack-in-the-box is. It’s a children’s toy which seems to have followed us into adulthood. This toy is in the shape of a box that has a crank and when this crank is turned it plays a melody. Once the melody ends you are met with a … Continue reading Don’t you just wish Jack would stay inside of his box??
Can we be friends?
I’m starting to wonder if I missed the memo, as it seems that friendship has now become the consolation prize for a potential relationship. The fact that the two go hand in hand these days is not in the way that we would generally expect. I don’t know about you but I was told that … Continue reading Can we be friends?
Dream Big
Today is the 31st of October 2016 and to think that 2016 is nearly over makes me pause and reflect on my various achievements this year. There are two months left of 2016 and I don’t know about you but I intend to make them count. You may have composed a list of things to … Continue reading Dream Big
Set The Standard & Maintain Your Position
As women we know that we can be rather delicate, however dependant on your individuality is dependent on what you actually find yourself being delicate about. I have always described myself as having a sensitive spirit and I am aware of how this affects my thoughts and emotions. There’s something about growing older that I … Continue reading Set The Standard & Maintain Your Position
Gracious People, Let GO.
With a new season fast approaching (Goodbye Summer, Hello Autumn). I am reminded that no matter how hard we try, we can not escape change. During my early Twenties, I discovered that I did not like change very much. In fact the thought of change made me feel quite uneasy, as I was that girl … Continue reading Gracious People, Let GO.
How are you going to win when you ain’t right within…
Many walk through life not reflecting on their choices or their actions; however those of us who are reflective individuals are aware that who we are is a reflection of our thoughts. Inevitably what we allow to occupy our minds influences our choices and our decisions...
Chapter 28…”The world is a book and those that don’t travel read only one page”- Saint Augustine
I’ve been MIA for the past couple of months, but I’m back and I’m another year older. As some of you may know, I decided after my 25th birthday that I wanted to celebrate all of my subsequent birthday’s (until 30) travelling somewhere new as I was becoming bored with the usual birthday dinners (this … Continue reading Chapter 28…”The world is a book and those that don’t travel read only one page”- Saint Augustine
Let’s talk about the fear of perception
As I sit here and type, I begin to ponder on how the views of those around us shape our perception of the world and our place within it. How often do your family and friends provide you with their opinions of what you should do and how you should do it? When I encounter … Continue reading Let’s talk about the fear of perception
Does Pregnancy = Marriage?
Marry for love not convenience. Marry because you know you are ready to embark on this journey with someone who is prepared to commit to you FOREVER.
I’m on YouTube!!
In this introductory video, I talk about why I've decided to join YouTube.
Ms Tomilola 