Recently I’ve seen lots of comments from women stating that cheating is something we should come to terms with, within our relationships and marriages. Even going so far to say that as long as he is still handling his business at home, we should turn a blind eye. Comments like this anger me as a woman, because I just can’t seem to fathom the thought process if I’m honest.

When did financial stability from your boyfriend/ husband and lavish gifts become the substitute for honesty and loyalty? If you speak to most people who have experienced infidelity they will all list various reasons as to why they stayed or why they left. I don’t think there is a blanket rule here, however as a Christian I do believe that once you make the commitment to marry someone, you have to exhaust all the options and actively work at your marriage before you decide that it must come to an end. That is why I feel, like the celebrity marriages of nowadays continue to make a mockery out of the institution of marriage.

One thing I’ve always stood by, is that I cannot and will not accept infidelity within a relationship. People don’t change overnight, therefore you must examine the patterns in a person’s behaviour. What you experience in a relationship, is what you will most likely experience within your marriage. However, this would be a good time to state my disclaimer, if I heard from God concerning the matter that I should endure then guess what, that is what I would have to do. Although, knowing my personality this would have been a debate between myself and God before I followed through with the instruction (I’m a work in progress).

Ladies and Gentlemen, we cannot continue to accept that it is in someone’s nature to be disloyal and therefore endure disrespect. We all make conscious decisions daily, so to minimise a person’s decision to step outside of their relationship is an insult to humanity. Maybe some of you don’t mind having a third party within your relationship, if you remain number one aka “Queen Bee”. Would you be surprised if I said that I mind? In this day and age, the other woman also known as the side chick, seem to have a sense of entitlement and therefore it is likely that you will encounter further disrespect as she calls into question your womanhood.

Ladies be very careful with your words, vision and thoughts because they will manifest themselves into reality. If you say you accept infidelity because this has now become the norm, you will experience it. As for me and mine, I have faith in God and therefore I know that he will perfect all that concerns me.

It is time to stop focusing on the physical and superficial attributes that are acceptable to the world and strive for excellence in all that we do, especially within our relationships. Notice that I said excellence and not perfection. Perfection leaves no room for growth, excellence demands personal development which will positively impact our life outcomes.

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Refuse to settle and wait on God for a man who will Respect and Love You because he loved God FIRST.

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